I need help with my frustration! I am so hot tempered and quick to jump to a bad mood. Sometimes it just seems easier to get mad than to walk away for 30 seconds and cool off. Especially with my kiddos. My first reaction is to scream which I feel like I am doing more often than not lately. And it always makes me feel horrible. And then I justify well I already screamed at them once it won't hurt to just get it all out today and then start again tomorrow with good mommy techniques. Isn't that terrible? Right now I am blaming it on my Merana.
So what do you do to calm down? How do you give yourself breaks from little ones? How do you not scream at them when they do not so wanted things or destroy things? Advice greatly appreciated, but no one better say I am a bad mommy =) Haha
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What helps me from losing my mind with the little ones is blogging while eating chocolate chips. It's always a quick fix. Or we make a target trip. The three of us are usually very happy there. Good luck, being a mom is hard work
Ok, I don't have any experience with kids, but I do know that whenever our dog chews something up or does something she's not supposed to, I really want to scream at her.
I make her go outside for a while until I've cooled off so she doesn't get my full wrath. Once I've cooled off I let her back in.
Granted you can't send your kids outside alone while you cool off, but maybe you could send them to their rooms?
If Ethan is doing something that is time-out worthy, I just calmly take him into time out (usually a quiet room with a child lock on the inside door handle), tell him "I'll see you when you can be sweet again" and leave him in there until he stops crying or throwing his tantrum. This way, you both get a time out to cool off. After that, it is much easier to talk to them about the bad choices they made and how you can make it better. Also, if you always feel yourself saying, "No, don't do that!" "No, don't touch that!" something else you could try is to always tell them why they cant touch that or do that. Little kids just don't understand why they cant do something if they haven't been told why. I'm sure you don't have a problem with that though :) I really LOVE the book Parenting with Love and Logic by Jim Fay. I would recommend it to anyone who wants to improve their parenting techniques! (which is something we can ALL do!) Good luck!
I do it very similar to Ashleigh. When I find myself getting frustrated I usually send them up to their rooms for a couple of minutes until all of us calm down. Then I usually go talk to them and explain why they were sent to their room.
I think you do such a good job Lydia.
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